The Day I Was Set Free

8 months ago I participated in a periscope pass the cast. The topic was, “What/Who could you go with out for 3 month.”

Periscope changed everything


In preparing for this scope, I debated with myself of letting people in and let them know the real me. After, spending hours of trying to figure what I would talk about, how much I would talk about, no I couldn’t say this without saying that. The longer this went on the more I cried, my stomach hurt, my chest hurt.

I was beginning to get a panic attack.

Things that I had stuffed deep down inside for so long started to come back. I started to hate myself for allowing this to happen, I started to hate the people who had hurt me in my past.

I began writing in my journal again.

I hadn’t written anything down, much less in a journal in years. I mean I thought up until that day I thought I was doing good. boy, way I wrong. I wrote for an hour and when I stopped writing, I felt better.

I realized that all these years I wasn’t thriving, I was merely surviving and hadn’t ever really gotten over everything that has happened to me.

I then read what I wrote

The people I could give up for three months would be my father, my ex husband, and an ex boyfriend. After reading this sentence I almost changed it as I was thinking silly you have gone more than 3 months at a time in your life without these people so why now? Well, I kept reading. The reason I could give them up is for the sexual abuse as a child and a teen I experienced, and the verbal and emotional abuse I received from any of these. I then went into greater detail in my story.

I realized by telling my story on periscope, “What if other people changed how they looked at me?” I didn’t care, honestly. For the first time I felt like a weight had been lifted off of me.

I told my story on periscope and learned that in this world and that group that night I was not alone. My story may not be the same as someone else’s, but they may have gone through something worse or similar. I also, realized there may be others out there like me that have bottled it all up inside, and are experiencing that same depressed, worth less, failure, ugly, dying inside, and just going through the motions in life.

I am here to tell you that you are not alone. You are strong!

There are groups that I am in that are amazing and so supportive. Remember, as I have learned you are not alone.

Your story may help someone else out. Just as Kelley Alsobrook, her support group, and her book has Sshh…I’ve got a secret has helped me.

Another woman who has helped me is Pineapple Soda and her support group 4EKG. These women’s stories, love, and support has helped me more than they will ever know.

By telling your story it will set you free, as bottling it all up only makes it worse. Trust me on that one. It took me 40 years to get it out, and get set free.

Lastly, I know this one is easier said than done, but forgive them.

I am only saying this, because forgiveness will help you. It will help set your free, as once you forgive them and tell your story they no longer have power over you.

If you have gone through any kind of adversity in your life, if you can relate, or would like help finding a group, someone to talk to, ask questions about my story comment, share or email me at and let’s chat.

Stress Relief – Lavender Moments at My House

You’d think stress would be non-existent in a home where love abides, but that couldn’t be further from the truth. Stress relief is necessary, almost everywhere these days, and I have found it in an uncommon way to not only reduce stress, but enjoy the delightful and often delicate fragrance of lavender.

I spend a lot of hours working at my desk. As a writer, there are days when it seems like home surrounds my desk rather than my desk resides in my home. But on the corner of my desk is one of my favorite accessories. A hummingbird and hibiscus wax warmer that provides a low level light, and just enough heat to warm the wax melt inside the glass bowl.

Humming Bird WarmerSometimes I change out the aromas, cinnamon and apple in the winter, or eucalyptus and honey for a time, but more often than not, I revert back to my favorite scents, lavender, or lemon grass. Either of them set off a world of relaxation and inspiration as I work.

And the biggest benefit of lavender is that I find everyone in my home is more relaxed when I’m sharing the lavender scent. My grandsons play quieter, my daughter is more relaxed… Even my son-in-law comes home to kick back and put his feet up, relaxing to the sweet aroma of lavender.

My daughter home schools her son, so there’s a lot of ‘work time’ involved in our lives every day, whether she’s focusing on her 31 Bags Business, or on home schooling, or I’m working at writing, building websites, or doing one of the marketing jobs that goes with my business. Our days are busy and filled with activities. So, ultimately, we have a melt going somewhere in the house almost all the time. My favorite is still the one on my desk with hummingbirds and hibiscus.

Ways to deal with Stress

One of the many ways we choose to deal with stress includes visits to local hiking areas around Colorado Springs. This hike took us to a look out point, where we could see much of Colorado Springs on a warm spring day.

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The opportunity to hike anywhere on the mountain within a thirty minute (or less) drive is always a great benefit to living in the shadow of Pike’s Peak. And about that weather? You never know when the climate is going to change. It’s summer one day, and winter the next!

Mountain living is fun. It’s one of the better reasons for tolerating Front Range Traffic.

Stress Relief with Family

Nothing relieves stress better than spending time with the family in one of the wonders of the world. Just a short 20 minute drive from home, nature takes center stage as we perch on a rock, or climb through the pines, gather pine cones, or feed the squirrels, laughing and having the best times of our lives, with family.

The clincher, as always, is returning home to a sweet smelling home, good food, and pleasant nights enjoying each other’s company.

Pssst… Did you know lavender grows wild in the Colorado Rockies?

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Jan Verhoeff is a web designer who lives in the Colorado Springs area. She writes content for blogs, and promotes small businesses with blog posts. You may contact her or visit her website at

3 all natural DIY homemade body wrap recipes

Body wraps are a way to help you slim down inches, exfoliate & cleanse, get rid of impurities(detoxify), tighten & tone any loose skin you may have, and make stretch marks less noticeable.

After doing some research, and talking to 3 of my friends that sell essential oils. I found 3 recipes you can choose from to do in the comfort of your own home for less.

Now I’m not criticizing other wrap companies, or saying they don’t work. I am just saying that DIY homemade body wraps can work just as good as the ones you pay for online or get at spas.

Remember: it is important to stay hydrated when doing any body wrap. Make sure you drink at least 8 ounces of water.

1. Young Living Body Wrap Recipe:
You can get young living essential oils at enter user ID#1875931
Mix together:
30 drops of ledum
10 drops of lemon
10 drops of lemongrass
10 drops of cypress
4 ounces of v-6 oil

Apply mixed ingredients to stomach or any other problem areas you may have. After applying to stomach or problem areas cover with ace bandage. Then wrap saran wrap on top of ace bandage. Place a blanket over you. Keep on for one hour. Take blanket, saran wrap, and ace bandages off and enjoy!

2. DoTerra recipe:
You can get DoTerra ingredients from:

Mix ingredients:
40 drops Slim and Sassy
15 drops Eucalyptus
15 drops wintergreen
10 drops peppermint
10 drops lavender
10 drops grapefruit
5 drops cypress
4 ounces fractionated coconut oil

Mix ingredients in a glass spray bottle. Spray on stomach. Cover with ace bandages followed by 3 layers of saran wrap. Leave on for 1-2 hours or leave on overnight.

3. Purely Essential oils recipe:

You can get your Purely ingredients at:

Mix ingredients:
10-15 drops slenderize
4 ounces of carrier oil

Mix ingredients together. Apply to stomach. Wrap with ace bandage. Apply for 1 hour or longer.

Enjoy your homemade body wraps.
Comment below and share your experiences or other recipes you may have.

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Have a sensational day!